How and When to Invite Wedding Guests? Our Guide
Organizing a wedding reception requires a lot of commitment from the bride and groom. One of the key points on your wedding to-do list is inviting your guests. Although it is a pleasant duty, there are a few important rules to follow. Do you know when and how wedding invitations should be delivered?
When to invite guests to the wedding?
It is generally accepted that a wedding invitation should be handed out about 3-5 months before the planned ceremony. If guests live abroad, you can send them the invitation much earlier, even 8 months before the wedding. This way, guests from afar have time to complete passport formalities and book plane tickets.
Regardless of where they live, future wedding guests should have time to choose appropriate outfits, buy a wedding gift, or plan other wedding-related expenses. Therefore, you should not hand out invitations less than a month before the wedding date. Usually, the couple has a backup list of guests to invite if spots become available due to declines from those invited earlier. Although these are usually distant relatives or acquaintances, respect requires that you notify them well in advance – one month is the absolute minimum in this case.
How to invite guests: in person or by mail?
Whenever possible, the bride and groom should hand-deliver invitations to immediate family members and elderly relatives. If the reception is intimate and there aren't many guests, they can deliver invitations in person to everyone invited. However, if the wedding is large and guests are scattered across the country or live abroad, this can be troublesome. Therefore, wedding etiquette allows for invitations to be sent by mail. However, you should call first and deliver the invitation verbally. Additionally, it is worth sending the invitation by registered mail to ensure it reaches the recipients.
The most important rules of etiquette – wedding invitations for loved ones
According to etiquette rules, we hand-deliver invitations to immediate family members, i.e., siblings, grandparents, and godparents. It is especially worth remembering the elders of the family, for whom a visit from the couple is a sign of respect. A chat over coffee or tea is an important element of such a meeting. Therefore, the couple must set aside enough time to distribute the invitations. To avoid surprising your hosts, you should call them in advance to inform them of the visit and its purpose, and arrive on time. If there is not enough time to visit each guest separately, you can hand out invitations during joint family gatherings. A good occasion is, for example, a family Christmas Eve dinner.
How to invite friends and coworkers to the wedding?
Close friends of the bride and groom are also among those who should be invited in person. Due to the long-standing friendship and close relationship, this situation is quite clear. Friends usually know the date of the ceremony well in advance, which, of course, does not exempt the couple from the duty of handing them an invitation. During a personal meeting, you can also officially introduce your future spouse to your friends if they haven't met yet.
The situation is a bit more complicated with distant acquaintances, such as colleagues from work. If only a few receive an invitation, there is a risk of straining professional relationships with other coworkers. To avoid such awkward situations, some couples hand out wedding announcements, expecting those interested to attend only the wedding ceremony. There are also people who invite all their coworkers to the wedding. This way, no one feels offended or left out.
How to present a wedding invitation?
A wedding invitation is presented in an unsealed envelope with the front facing up. This rule has a practical justification: once the invitation is removed, its content is immediately visible. Therefore, the placement of the invitation in the envelope should not be underestimated. If you are inviting a couple, the envelope should be handed to the woman. The envelope should be addressed with the first and last names of the invited guests. List the spouse or partner first. When handing over the invitation, you should also provide the most important information verbally. Some couples prepare special rhyming formulas that they memorize. In our opinion, sincere words from the heart that sound natural are much better. Don't worry about minor stumbles on this occasion. Meeting with family is not just a duty resulting from wedding etiquette, but also a great opportunity for a personal and heartfelt conversation.
If you are planning a wedding abroad or during popular summer dates, we encourage you to read our post about Save the Date cards entitled: Save the date - what does it mean and where does it come from?
